{"id":1264,"date":"2022-07-19T21:32:00","date_gmt":"2022-07-19T21:32:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.route66.dresslake.com\/?p=1264"},"modified":"2022-07-19T21:32:00","modified_gmt":"2022-07-19T21:32:00","slug":"knowing-invisible-complexes","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.route66.dresslake.com\/en\/knowing-invisible-complexes\/","title":{"rendered":"[Mental Enhancement] Benefits of Knowing Invisible Complexes"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Lately, little by little.<\/p>\n

I feel that I am able to spend each day in a healthy way.<\/p>\n

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Certainly, I spend fewer days worrying about “anxiety” than before.<\/p>\n

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There is a big reason for that. I am aware of “I like myself more than before.”<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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And why wasn’t I able to do that before?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Because I wasn’t facing my unconscious complex.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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When you cannot like yourself, you have a complex that no one is aware of.<\/p>\n

Even though we deal with it outwardly without knowing it, we are actually living with it while worrying about it unconsciously.<\/p>\n

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This is the “unconsciousness” of the complex, and it is very troublesome.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Moreover, complexes from childhood are very deep-rooted and do not come up with the surface easily.<\/p>\n

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If you never accept it, you will sometimes feel to\u00a0suck\u00a0about yourself.<\/p>\n

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For example, in my case, there are three complexes that I have been pretending not to notice for a long time, but are actually sitting there unconsciously:<\/p>\n

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  • The first is my appearance; I have always been skinny and my shoulders are not broad. so I look small. But I didn’t accept that It was my complex. I did try to avoid it.<\/li>\n
  • Secondly, money; There were many people around me who had money, and I felt very poor. I knew it was complex, but I tried not to feel it. And I tried to imitate them as if I had money.<\/li>\n
  • Thirdly; I was traumatized by the fact that my best friend hated me in the past, like it was a long time ago. Whenever something tricky happened between friends and me, I was patient and didn’t say anything. This was because of my complex of “I don’t want to be disliked as before, I want to be seen as a good person.” I felt stressed by the relationship more often than not, but I pretended not to notice.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

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    I am not aware of the above consciously, I actually know them but while trying to avoid knowing deep of my thought, and have lived.<\/p>\n

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    That the complexes are unconscious that are held without trying to know themselves.<\/p>\n

    There is “an unconscious complex.”<\/p>\n

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    The outer consciousness pretends not to know, or pretends to be unaware of them, so they are not resolved on their own.<\/p>\n

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    It never resolves itself, and as a result<\/p>\n

    As a result, they refuse to like themselves.<\/p>\n

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    If it realizes it, it admits to itself that it is a weakness so, they don’t want to accept it. Because knowing and accepting your complexes is very shameful.<\/p>\n

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    However, living in the moment and being honest with myself about my feelings,<\/p>\n

    I realize that this is a really bad way to think.<\/p>\n

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    In my mind,<\/p>\n

    “Wait, I just got stuck up in something.”<\/p>\n

    “What is it?<\/p>\n

    “Why is my mind so agitated and restless?”<\/p>\n

    Observing my current feelings.<\/p>\n

    As a result, even if I don’t understand or solve the problem at the time, I will try again, and giving myrself a chance to act and think until I know how my truly feel.<\/p>\n

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    Then it will naturally find the answer.<\/p>\n

    I\u00a0 am able to choose a direction that is easier to live with.<\/p>\n

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    Here’s how to observe feelings.<\/p>\n

    Example of mine; When I visit a bar.<\/p>\n

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    • I feel somewhat nervous, fidgety at the entrance and when I sit down.<\/li>\n
    • I look around and see all the men are big and tall.<\/li>\n
    • I feel uncomfortable. When ordering at a bar, my voice is too quiet, the bartender cannot hear me, and I cannot order properly.<\/li>\n
    • Why can’t I behave smartly?<\/li>\n
    • Oh, I feel small. (I am concerned about how tall I am.)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

      I wonder if I had my own body shape complex here? I can guess.<\/p>\n

      When you know that, the solution is to make an effort to like yourself now, even a little bit.<\/p>\n

      Well, shape is a very delicate topic in the U.S. And I just made an example because it is easy to realize your complex. But I didn\u2019t pay attention to my shape because I thought that I was skinny but it wasn’t my complex, and it does not bother me.<\/p>\n

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      If you know your weakness and can solve it with effort, it is worth a try.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

      If you don’t accept a complex that you don’t want to accept because of pride and leave it at that, you will miss the chance to change yourself.<\/p>\n

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      From my experience with this bar’s situation.<\/p>\n

      I decided to go to the gym and start weight training to change my shape.<\/p>\n

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      Since then, in every situation, I have seen a decrease in these complexes (insecurities) based on my appearance and an increase in my confidence.<\/p>\n

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      I know it will never be completely free of anxiety. That is very tough.<\/p>\n

      But you need to know what you are feeling anxious about and try to improve yourself so that you don’t worry about it, even if only a little.<\/p>\n

      This is necessary to reduce anxiety.<\/p>\n

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      But, If you don’t think you cannot do it, then move to a different environment (different country, different town, etc.)<\/p>\n

      Just go where you don’t have to make yourself feel sad, fear, anxiety.<\/p>\n

      Get away from anxiety as much as you can.<\/p>\n

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      The world is a big place and you can live with a different perspective.<\/p>\n

      Keep challenging yourself to the extent that you can control, and<\/p>\n

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      Making an effort will strengthen your mentality and ease your complexes.<\/p>\n

      This will lead to happiness and a natural love for yourself.<\/p>\n

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      At this stage, you should avoid difficult things (uncontrollable people and things) as much as possible and stay away from them.<\/p>\n

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      Once you get rid of your complexes and get to know yourself, you can try to get a little closer and try again.<\/p>\n

      This can make things possible that were previously impossible.<\/p>\n

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      In a sense, invisible complexes are like spices that help people grow.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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      While facing them little by little, we should not overdo it and sometimes take a break.<\/p>\n

      Sometimes you have to take a break and sometimes you have to step away from the complex.<\/p>\n

      Let’s keep a good distance from the complex when you got tired.<\/p>\n

      This is the secret to “being the best me every day.”<\/p>\n

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      And, don’t get frustrated.<\/p>\n

      Live healthy.<\/p>\n

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      There are many problems, but this is the best.<\/p>\n

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      I sincerely pray that your mental stability will continue every day.<\/p>\n

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      ZenJin<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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