I’ve just been recently rejected.<\/p>\n
But, I’m fine.<\/p>\n
Sometimes, I can’t deny the feeling of emptiness that comes over me every now and then.<\/p>\n
But each time, I take a breath.<\/p>\n
All I did the thing, good or bad, was to live honestly with myself.<\/p>\n
I didn’t do anything wrong.<\/p>\n
When I used to be unsure of myself and scared of the outcome, I used to play games with myself, forcing myself to take my time and waiting until the other person’s feelings were inclined toward me, but I don’t need to do that anymore.<\/p>\n
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I don’t know when I’m going to die, and that goes for all living things.<\/p>\n
So, I don’t know how long the person I told my feelings to will be in this world.<\/p>\n
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When I used to think about the question, “If my life were to end in 365 days, what would I want to do? I asked myself this question.<\/p>\n
I came to the conclusion that I would like to live my life by doing as little as possible of the things I dislike.<\/p>\n
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One of them is that I don’t want to spend my days not being honest with myself.<\/p>\n
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\/\/\/\/ Be honest with Yourself\/\/\/\/<\/strong><\/p>\n If I die today and tomorrow never comes,<\/strong><\/p>\n And I don’t know when is that comes.<\/strong><\/p>\n I want to be honest with myself.<\/strong><\/p>\n I want to live in the present moment.<\/strong><\/p>\n I want to live in the moment and spend time with the people around me who are important to me, being honest with my feelings in the moment.<\/strong><\/p>\n By doing so, I will be able to the \u200blife will be fulfilled every day.<\/strong><\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n All things fall apart if the timing and balance are not right.<\/p>\n Things that used to be good can suddenly lose their shape or break down.<\/p>\n What was good today can be bad tomorrow.<\/p>\n So I think it’s good to just do what you want to do now.<\/p>\n A life of being scared and doing nothing is not fun.<\/p>\n But I am able to take risks because I learned how to keep my mental state relaxed.<\/p>\n I don’t feel like I’m in the depths of despair when I make a big mistake or get my heart broken like I used to.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n There are three key that,<\/p>\n Concentrate on your breathing.<\/p>\n Strengthen your mental strength through muscle training.<\/p>\n Read books to learn how to control my emotion.<\/p>\n So, you are able to reduce your thoughts such as negativity, anxiety, sadness, regret that come out of nowhere.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n The expectation of the others is really strong and cannot avoid sometimes.<\/p>\n It’s like an ego thing.<\/p>\n But it’s not a bad thing.<\/p>\n To do that, you have to try not to impose your ego on those around you or on the others.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n If we can listen to and respect the opinions of others after we have expressed our own opinions, the ego itself will not become our enemy.<\/p>\n The ego is not our enemy if we can listen to and respect the opinions of others.<\/p>\n Especially in Japanese society, and we cannot say “no” in the group life.<\/p>\n I feel that ego in Japan is seen as the enemy.<\/p>\n But If someone tells me that I am only thinking about myself and not about others, it also means that you do not respect my opinion.<\/p>\n So….<\/p>\n I would like to keep an attitude (mentality) that allows both of us to express our opinions to each other and respect them.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n There’s nothing wrong with that.<\/p>\n Let’s live honestly with ourselves.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n Zen Jin<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" I’ve just been recently rejected. But, I’m fine. Sometimes, I can’t deny the feeling of emptiness that comes over me every now and then. But each time, I take a breath. All I did the thing, good or bad, was to live honestly with myself. I didn’t do anything wrong. When I used to be […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1327,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_locale":"en_US","_original_post":"https:\/\/blog.route66.dresslake.com\/?p=1323","footnotes":""},"categories":[13],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-1323","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-mental-strength","8":"en-US"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.route66.dresslake.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1323","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.route66.dresslake.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.route66.dresslake.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.route66.dresslake.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.route66.dresslake.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1323"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/blog.route66.dresslake.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1323\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1328,"href":"https:\/\/blog.route66.dresslake.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1323\/revisions\/1328"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.route66.dresslake.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1327"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.route66.dresslake.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1323"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.route66.dresslake.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1323"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.route66.dresslake.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1323"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}