I borrowed a new book.<\/p>\n
The book is called ” 59 Second” by Richard Wiseman.<\/p>\n
I’ve only just started reading it, so I can’t tell you what it’s about.<\/p>\n
The title says that if you think a little, you can make a lot of changes.<\/p>\n
I tend to overthink a lot.<\/p>\n
So I was attracted to the title.<\/p>\n
For example,<\/p>\n
When replying to a mail, I tend to think too much about the contents or try too hard to make the sentences correct, and as a result, I end up giving the wrong information to the other person, or the sentences are far from what I wanted to say in my initial feelings.<\/p>\n
So,<\/p>\n
Personally, I prefer to communicate over the phone.<\/p>\n
However, in the case of work or just a casual conversation, a phone call can take up a lot of time.<\/p>\n
I hope I can learn something from this book.<\/p>\n
<\/p>\n
In fact,<\/p>\n
Overthinking things doesn’t always work out.<\/p>\n
For example, I lost my Airpods case at Starbucks yesterday.<\/p>\n
I thought it would be gone by now, so I went back and looked for it, and yeah couldn’t find it.<\/p>\n
Normally, I would spend the whole day wondering if I should reorder the case, or if it might be somewhere else. I’ve been looking all over for it.<\/p>\n
I spent a lot of time obsessing over the lost item.<\/p>\n
I often lose my sunglasses, too…<\/p>\n
Lately,<\/p>\n
I’ve been thinking that things that have gone away or that I’ve lost were things that should have gone away from me. So I am able to let go of them without being attached to them.<\/p>\n
Another thing is that I realize that I have many other things as well.<\/p>\n
When I think about this if I’m attached to something I’ve lost that I can come back to the present.<\/p>\n
Then I can move on to the next action.<\/p>\n
In this case, after searching for the case and finding it missing, I spent about an hour thinking about how disappointing it was, and then I told my brain to interpret it as something that it should have go away.<\/p>\n
I also had to go shopping, so after calling the Apple store and making an appointment to replacement, I decided to go ahead with my plans.<\/p>\n
In the past, I would have been so caught up in the missing item that I would not have gone shopping and would have been obsessing and searching for the missing item all day long.<\/p>\n
<\/p>\n
\/\/\/\/ Do not over thinking \/\/\/\/<\/strong><\/p>\n The bottom line is.<\/strong><\/p>\n Don’t overthinking things.<\/strong><\/p>\n When you overthinking things, you can’t make a decision, you can’t take action, and you may end up doing or saying unnecessary things.<\/strong><\/p>\n Have you ever had such an experience?<\/strong><\/p>\n Mine almost all of them.<\/strong><\/p>\n So when I receive an e-mail, I try to tell the person what I feel at first after reading the text.<\/strong><\/p>\n As for lost things, I don’t ask myself, “Where is it? I think of it as already gone.<\/strong><\/p>\n When I’m driving, I sometimes think that it might be there again, or that it might come back.<\/strong><\/p>\n if that thought comes to my mind, I do think that it is something that it should have been gone for me.<\/strong><\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n This realization enriches my life.<\/p>\n It can be used and applied to any situation.<\/p>\n When relationships doesn’t work out.<\/p>\n A mistake at work.<\/p>\n Bad things that have happened to you.<\/p>\n It adapts to everything.<\/p>\n If letting go is not enough for you, try to remember a moment when you feel happy, good, or naturally smiling, or write it down on a piece of paper.<\/p>\n If I had to pick three recent moments that have made me smile, I would say<\/p>\n I love the city where I live in, and the blue sky on my way to Starbucks is always soothing.<\/p>\n I also like the smell of the desert (which is completely different when you move from one place in California to another in Arizona), it is very soothing. There is a place near my house that smells like that same, so I often walk by that place. It may be the smell of cactus.<\/p>\n I can smile when I’m boxing at the gym or drinking a beer on the patio.<\/p>\n Just knowing what makes you feel good is enough to keep that obsession away.<\/p>\n Simply stop thinking about it and focus on the good feelings.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n You only live once in your life.<\/p>\n The case you lost, it costs money, but you can buy it again.<\/p>\n You can also make more money.<\/p>\n And if you don’t get attached to it, it can come back to you once in a while.<\/p>\n That’s what happened to my case.<\/p>\n One of the customer was keeping my case and waited for me at Starbucks.<\/p>\n I was very grateful.<\/p>\n Many people were kind to me that day.<\/p>\n I experienced and felt that by not being attached to everything that happens, it can come back to me in a different form.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n Let’s move on.<\/p>\n It is up to you to decide whether the loss was a good thing or not.<\/p>\n I’m sure that thanks to that event,<\/p>\n I am sure that it will have a lot of fun later.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Zen Jin<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" I borrowed a new book. The book is called ” 59 Second” by Richard Wiseman. I’ve only just started reading it, so I can’t tell you what it’s about. The title says that if you think a little, you can make a lot of changes. I tend to overthink a lot. So I was attracted […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1343,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_locale":"en_US","_original_post":"https:\/\/blog.route66.dresslake.com\/?p=1337","footnotes":""},"categories":[13],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-1337","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-mental-strength","8":"en-US"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.route66.dresslake.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1337","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.route66.dresslake.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.route66.dresslake.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.route66.dresslake.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.route66.dresslake.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1337"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/blog.route66.dresslake.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1337\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1338,"href":"https:\/\/blog.route66.dresslake.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1337\/revisions\/1338"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.route66.dresslake.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1343"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.route66.dresslake.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1337"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.route66.dresslake.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1337"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.route66.dresslake.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1337"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}