This is a blog that It’s been a while.<\/p>\n
Recently, I’ve been reading new books and learning about communication.<\/p>\n
I used to think that I was good at communication when was in high school to I came to the U.S.<\/p>\n
But after I came to the U.S., I was not able to communicate well and I lost my confidence.<\/p>\n
I mean, when I was in Japan, I lived my life by adapting to people as much as possible, so I didn’t say unnecessary things, and I didn’t have conflicts or offend people.<\/p>\n
Even these days, my e-mail and phone communication are better than before, but there are still times when I say unnecessary things.<\/p>\n
That’s just who I am, so I can’t help it sometimes.<\/p>\n
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So, I’ve started reading a book on communication.<\/p>\n
I’ve only just started reading it, but I’d like to recommend it to you.<\/p>\n
It’s called “Nonviolent Communication” and the author is Marshall B. Rosenberg.<\/p>\n
I am still at the beginning of the reading,<\/p>\n
Don’t judge or reject what people say or act, but observe their behavior.<\/p>\n
Pay attention to how the behavior makes you feel about it.<\/p>\n
Then think about what you need to do.<\/p>\n
Then, I would tell the person what I had noticed and make suggestions.<\/p>\n
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\/\/\/\/ Conversation Techniques with compassionating\/\/\/\/<\/strong><\/p>\n I’m always saying things I don’t mean to say.<\/strong><\/p>\n In the beginning, the most important thing is to observe and think about the other person.<\/strong><\/p>\n But if you cannot communicate your feelings to others, you cannot communicate with them and you too.<\/strong><\/p>\n I think this is a good idea for people like me, who tend to say what they want to say, even though it is unnecessary.<\/strong><\/p>\n So,<\/strong><\/p>\n If you’re going to say something, say it at the end, not at the beginning.<\/strong><\/p>\n I think this will help alleviate the problem a little.<\/strong><\/p>\n <\/p>\n By the way, 90% of my unnecessary comments are silly jokes.<\/p>\n I try not to say anything that would deny the human rights of the other person’s character, how they look, gender, skin color, etc.<\/p>\n I keep this in my mind all the time.<\/p>\n I think that if you keep this in mind, you can have a conversation without harming others to some extent.<\/p>\n After that, I think it’s important to think calmly about what I think.<\/p>\n Calmly is important.<\/p>\n I would like to keep this in mind and try to enjoy the conversation.<\/p>\n For example, in a recent communication.<\/p>\n I was boxing at the gym, and a guy with a mitt started talking to me, and I declined to train with him because I didn’t have much time left.<\/p>\n Afterward, I felt strangely awkward, and I wondered if I hadn’t said it right.<\/p>\n Did I speak badly?<\/p>\n I wondered if I had said it wrong.<\/p>\n I have a tendency to worry about even the smallest things.<\/p>\n I also realized that I was avoiding interaction as much as possible.<\/p>\n I don’t give a fuck with anything, or I always tell my brain to take it easy, but it doesn’t work.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n If I were to apply this conversation here…<\/p>\n I denied and rejected the other person from the beginning.<\/p>\n I told him like “I’m sorry, I don’t have time right now. Let’s do it another time”. without thinking.<\/p>\n Instead, maybe I need to say to him like “Thanks for the invitation to hit the mitt. I’m interested, but I have to leave now, so let’s do it when we have time”. sounds much better.<\/p>\n I thought I needed to listen to him a little more and then give him an answer.<\/p>\n And, I also tend to speak up without thinking.<\/p>\n I would like to keep this in mind in my conversations.<\/p>\n Happy Halloween \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n <\/p>\n ZenJin<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" This is a blog that It’s been a while. Recently, I’ve been reading new books and learning about communication. I used to think that I was good at communication when was in high school to I came to the U.S. But after I came to the U.S., I was not able to communicate well and […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1372,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_locale":"en_US","_original_post":"https:\/\/blog.route66.dresslake.com\/?p=1369","footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-1369","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-self-analysis","8":"en-US"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.route66.dresslake.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1369","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.route66.dresslake.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.route66.dresslake.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.route66.dresslake.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.route66.dresslake.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1369"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/blog.route66.dresslake.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1369\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3075,"href":"https:\/\/blog.route66.dresslake.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1369\/revisions\/3075"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.route66.dresslake.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1372"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.route66.dresslake.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1369"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.route66.dresslake.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1369"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.route66.dresslake.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1369"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}