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It is really hot.<\/p>\n

It is truly the height of midsummer.<\/p>\n

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I always feel very good in August, perhaps because it is also my birthday month.<\/p>\n

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I suddenly realized that since I wanted to change myself, whenever something happened to me, I had a dialogue with myself.<\/p>\n

These are essential to truly changing your life.<\/p>\n

In fact, after several years of asking myself the same question such as “Who I am? How do I live life?” over and over again, I have found that I always feel good.<\/p>\n

At the same time, there are times when I am angry and sad, but the difference is that I feel more confident with all my negative emotions.<\/p>\n

I am convinced that I have been believing like a fool for a long time that I could change my life by knowing myself.<\/p>\n

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What do you think it feels like when your life turns around?<\/strong><\/p>\n

It’s all about when you know yourself.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Some articles say that spiritual events happen when our lives turn around, but in fact, it is because we have come to know ourselves and feel everything “firmly”.<\/p>\n

I used to be unable to notice when things were going to change, or when I was suddenly feeling something different, because I was too lazy to think deeply about what I needed to do. I was so busy doing this or that and that I didn’t even realize how lazy I was feeling or how I wasn’t feeling well at all.<\/p>\n

Recently, however, I have come to truly feel this, and I feel that I am starting to take care of myself a little bit more.<\/p>\n

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What I want to say is; Are you being kind to yourself? Are you able to express yourself freely?<\/p>\n

If you are not, please spend some time to be alone.<\/p>\n

If you don’t know who you are, please make time to spend alone time to ask yourself questions such as “What do I want to do?” “how do I feel?” “Did I fully enjoy the moment?”<\/p>\n

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Since I came to the U.S., I have sometimes felt “Asian Hate” and have been in a bit of a shell. I experienced people not being kind to me, and I got scared.<\/p>\n

By nature, or rather by personality (ENFP<\/a>), I was always good at talking with friends and getting along with strangers everywhere, and I always liked to hang out with people and have home parties with friends over. But maybe a while ago, I started to go off into my own world, camping alone, going to the gym for discipline, reading books, and traveling by myself. I felt like I was out of the social circle with all my might.<\/p>\n

My social event is that I talk to my family on the phone maybe once a week. That’s it.<\/p>\n

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To tell the truth, I was wondering if I was losing my usual sense of self. What I mean is that I couldn’t talk to them as casually as I used to.<\/p>\n

I would normally be able to make friends easily at the gym, but I didn’t want to feel like talking at all. I didn’t feel like I was in the mood for anything, and somehow I thought I might be mildly depressed.<\/p>\n

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In the midst of all this.<\/p>\n

There was a time when I felt bad that I was choosing to be alone, but I wondered if my going into my own time was not making the gap between me and society.<\/p>\n

Isn’t it kind of forcing you to be alone?<\/p>\n

Am I okay? I often wondered if I really wanted to be involved with other people and talk with them.<\/p>\n

There were many times when I thought to myself, “I’m not really want to be alone.”<\/p>\n

I felt that by being alone, I was losing my good qualities and that I might not be able to be the same cheerful character again in the future.<\/p>\n

But this is where I realized that I was too glorified in my past.<\/p>\n

I am not acknowledging the person I am today.<\/p>\n

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After repeatedly asking myself the same question, I finally realized the most important thing<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

It is “Acknowledging myself.”<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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For some people, it is easy, but for me, it was very hard.<\/p>\n

I have been struggling with not being able to say to myself, “I’m cool.”(like, low self-esteem) And because I used to be able to do it so easily, I didn’t feel like admitting to myself what I am now. The reason why I am timid about all the things I used to be able to do is because, as I mentioned at the beginning, I felt discrimination that I have never experienced in Japan, and I have a wound in my heart that was created by the strong denial from others.<\/p>\n

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But, I realized something again.<\/p>\n

It is that I am much more powerful than I was before.<\/p>\n

It is always the people around me that make me realize this. I appreciate that.<\/p>\n

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People around me talk to me and treat me with love, as if they know I am trying to come out of my shell. And I find myself able to talk to them without the anxiety that I used to have.<\/p>\n

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Something has changed again.<\/p>\n

That’s how I feel today, so this article will be completely my “free-talk.”<\/p>\n

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The benefits of alone time are:<\/strong><\/p>\n