Today’s I am going to talk about me things.

It’s been a while no dating with anyone since started covid-19 but I’ve got rejected with my friend of a girl.

I hadn’t been on a date at all lately, and I’ve been in a cycle of sleeping well, eating well, doing strength training, reading, and updating my blog to get to know myself.

She was a friend of my brother’s and we had known each other for four or five years.

However, we only got drinks sometimes with our friends in common once in a while, and we had never hang out just two of us before.

This summer was the first time we went out for dinner and beer together.

We celebrated my birthday.

It was the morning after we had celebrated my birthday and spent the night drinking together.

After she left, I was in a strange mood and I wished we could have had spending time more.

Of course, I didn’t have any romantic feelings for her before because she was dating someone else all the time, but she was very nice to me that day, so I wondered if I was mistaken or if she liked me too.

I’m not very good at bargaining these days, so I told her how I felt that morning.

This is going to sound safe to me, but I decided to tell her how I felt. Because she told me that her time was very important to her and so I thought it If I was going to ask her out on a date instead of as a friend, I thought it would be fair to tell her how I felt first.

I know I’m just not very good at dating to hide my feelings, but…

There may be a difference in timing and dating culture between Americans and Japanese. When I first came to the U.S., I went out with Americans several times, and even though I liked them, I didn’t tell them how I felt. and then I slept with them first.

But this time, I chose to tell her first because she was a good friend of mine that I thought.

After that, I asked her to go to the beach as usual.

She replied, “I don’t think going to the beach with you is the right thing to do since I know how you feel. So, I decided not to go.”

////Telling your feelings to someone you love////

Telling someone how you feel is

I think it’s probably the most important thing in a relationship.

There are two types of people, those who tell and those who don’t.

I agree with those who do your best. CHEEERS.

I think it’s a pain in the ass to be told by someone you don’t like.

Or

If you don’t tell someone how you feel, you can just enjoy your unrequited to have a romantic relationship.

I’m sure there are people who would say that way.

However, it is more beneficial for both you and someone who you like if you tell them.

The person who you like will think about it, and the boyfriend/girlfriend will know what he or she wants to do by how he or she answers or doesn’t answer the question.

So, They can learn about themselves and what they want to do by how they answer or don’t answer the question. “Oh, I was thinking this way about him or her, so I’ll tell this.”

This is where people can pay respect to the person.

This is a very difficult thing to do thought. And I would be appreciated that.

Most people end up not answering, or just ignoring the person, because they feel uncomfortable, or they don’t think about their feelings.

And if he or she doesn’t express their feelings…You don’t even think about it.
That’s the saddest thing about love.

The benefit for the person who is telling that they are being honest about their feelings and respect by themselves.

It takes a lot of strength to tell someone how you feel.

And you may hesitate to do this or that, thinking about the other person.

But the most important thing in life is to tell the one how you feel right now.

It is an event that has value just because you were able to convey it.

I don’t want to live a life where I can’t tell you that I am here and that I am living my life with these thoughts.

If there are people who are wondering whether to tell or not to tell

Please tell them.

Communicating is the most necessary thing in this world.

Even if it doesn’t go well, it’s okay.

It’s even more important to let people know that you exist and how you feel.

It is the love that you feel is the only one in the world that you should tell.

If you are rejected, you may think that “I am worthless,,.”

But that’s not true.

Every person has value, and being rejected will not change your value or mine, in fact, it will make us grow even more.

By telling people, you can grow more than you are now.

By all means, tell them and don’t blame yourself no matter what the result is.

Tell yourself, “Good job man.” That’s all you need to say.

That’s all you need to do in the mind.

Don’t think about anything else, just tell yourself I did a good job.

Accepting our own efforts will definitely enrich our lives.

It will definitely worth it in our lives.

Zen Jin