For all men, being accepted by women is one of their main goals in life.

Even those whose lives revolve around work can find themselves thinking about the opposite sex in the smallest of gaps. But even if you think about it in your spare time, if you don’t take action, it is difficult to meet someone, and even if you do, there are so few encounters that it is often the case that your type of girl always has a boyfriend.

I don’t know if this is true for all men, but I used to think about women all the time and was unable to focus on myself. But Finally, I am getting better at true self-control, which means to concentrate myself first.

To know yourself, you should not try to match the other person in love or in all your relationships, nor should you try to be agreeable to the other person. If you are a man who is in a relationship where you can’t be yourself and are trying to fit in with the other person, this article may be helpful.

Today, I would like to talk about what kind of men who are trying their best in love can enjoy themselves, improve themselves, and live their lives in a cool and vibrant way without lowering their sense of self-worth.

This article is for:

• I am late 30 years old and have no girlfriend. Want to fall in love or get a girlfriend.
• Those who are thinking of dating with a view to marriage.
• Those who want to know how to improve themselves.

This article is for those who want to know how to improve themselves.

First of all,

What does a man with a popular atmosphere look like? To be honest, there are women who look at men by their titles, such as rich CEO, tall, good looking, etc., but it does not mean that you need to have any of these to create the atmosphere of a cool guy.

When you enter your 30s, you think about your age to some extent, and it is difficult to have confidence if you think you do not have money or are not what is called a successful man.

However, you cannot change if you are forever chasing what you don’t have.

First of all, in order to get to the starting line, you need to stop thinking, “I don’t have any money, I’m still a part-timer. I’m only a part-timer. Let’s get rid of the attachment to your own value that comes from such fixed ideas.

1, You shouldn’t think that I’m not popular anyway. 

There was a time when my business was stagnant, I had no money, and I had no confidence in myself. I’m still a human being, and I still get down at times. But you have to stop lowering your own value. This is the most important thing to wear the aura of being popular.

There is no way they will ever take me.

If you think so, you really are. If your self-esteem remains low in your deepest psyche, the other person will feel that atmosphere.

So, what should you do?

Stop thinking that way. If you really want to change, start meditating and doing muscle training. This is the only way. Push ups until you can control your thoughts. As soon as you think to yourself, “Oh my God,” do push-ups. You can also go to the gym.

If you don’t like physical activity and can’t do this, do what you love and that will lift your spirits.

If you keep spending your time doing work you don’t like or doing things you don’t like, your self-esteem will not improve. If you like playing games or surfing the Internet at home, try taking your computer to a café or somewhere. Then some people will feel the atmosphere when they see you concentrating on your computer to do your things.

2, The important thing is to concentrate on what you are doing.

A man who is lazy or who spends his time doing things he doesn’t like and doesn’t seem to be enjoying himself is not attractive.

I don’t want us to judge ourselves for what we do. We take pride in the things we love doing. That alone can give you an aura of male attractiveness.

What makes a person great is very different from person to person. Some women like people who do muscle training, some women like people who are computer savvy. But if you are working on things while thinking you are anyway, you will not be able to exude your true goodness, and that is a great waste of time.

It doesn’t matter what kind of things you are doing.

Just let someone see what you enjoy doing, and you will meet more people. Men who are into something definitely have an aura about them.

3、Men who have their own kind of popular atmosphere are those who can talk to anyone without being separated.

For example, when talking to women, I see men who talk to cute girls only, that is not cool. Some guys let old ladies talk to them in a friendly manner. It was very pleasant to see him in a very mature manner. A person who is a gentleman to older people, animals, or any living thing is attractive as a human being.

If you go to a café and start playing a game, and someone sits next to your seat, you should practice talking to them casually. If you find it difficult to talk to strangers, try just saying hello to anyone who passes by, or try interacting with children or other people with whom you can have a conversation without being nervous.

Little by little, you will start to enjoy conversations with people you don’t know, and you will be noticed by those around you. Think about it. If you see a man at a café talking openly with a stranger, you will probably notice him. Like that, you yourself will be noticed.

4, Pay attention only to cleanliness.

This is absolutely necessary to create an aura of attractiveness. Smells attract women. If you smell bad, everyone will avoid you. This is the easiest thing anyone can do to be popular with women, regardless of whether they are confident about their face or body.

All you need to do is the following:

• Cut your nails. (Women look at your hands, so trim your nails.)
• Groom your eyebrows, beard, and hair.
• Take a light shower in the morning. (A minute or so is about as long as it should take. (Wash underarms, pubic area, neck area, etc. with a good smelling soap, etc.)
• Perfume is optional. If you find perfume too strong, a body cream with a nice soapy smell would be a good choice.
• Clothes must be washed.
• Clean your house and room.
• Clean your belongings. (Smart phones, wallets, glasses, watches, shoes, jewelry, etc.)

That’s all.

In any case, keeping things attached to you clean will keep you attractive. Men in their 30s who smell and look clean are seen as more mature and self-controlled than other men. This is especially important since cleanliness is what women look for in a man. And thankfully, anyone can do this. This is also necessary to love yourself, so by always keeping yourself clean, I think you can increase your self-worth a lot too.

I have found a perfume that I like, so I just put it on and go out, and I feel like I can be popular on my own.

I recommend this perfume, so if you are interested, please give it a try. It is a bit pricey, but it smells very sexy.

Creed Love in Black by ZenJin recommends 

5, Be conscious of looking women in the eye and talking to them.

Most women are aware when they can look you in the eye. If you look them in the eye when you talk to them, they will respond much differently. If you feel like they are not looking at you, there is no need to force them to look you in the eye, but try to make eye contact as a basic rule.

6, Correct your posture.

A man with a correct posture looks really cool. A hunched posture makes a man look like he lacks self-confidence. It is always a good idea to be aware of your posture, whether you are sitting or standing.

It has been scientifically proven that just by correcting your posture, testosterone (male hormone) levels have increased. Correcting your posture is also good for your health, so please take advantage of it. I often hunch over when I am on the computer, so I have to be aware of this and correct my posture repeatedly.

7, Increase the number of women you talk to.

This is the same as the third step of talking to everyone. My meaning of increasing the number of women I associate with is not to increase the number of girls I like, but to increase the number of women I can talk to openly.

In fact, I think that a tendency of many single-minded men is that once they like someone, they tend to focus only on that girl. That’s all well and good, but if they are still in the stage of not liking you, it may be better to keep it to yourself and not force the issue. However, in my opinion, sometimes you have to be prepared to self-destruct. It’s life, and you can do whatever you want.

But for those who are not prepared to do so, as long as you wear the aura, you will surely get a chance later on. So, first of all, you yourself should keep the pure feelings you have for her, but increase your encounters with many other women so that you can enjoy talking with them.

Simply enjoy yourself.

If you are in a relationship where you cannot help liking one woman and you are in pain, you need to enjoy talking with women first. It is wonderful to have feelings for someone, but if you are tormenting yourself by doing so, you need to let go and try to enjoy yourself. The other thing is patience. You can’t control how people feel, so it is always your thoughts and actions that change them. Of course, if you get enjoyment from continuing to seek out and challenge one woman, go ahead and do it.

The bottom line is that you should be clear about what type of person you are and live honestly with your feelings. I don’t want to deny the purity of my feelings. It is the most intuitive and happy feeling. But if you are in pain, let it go. It will give you the opportunity to create your own aura.

If you are not meeting people, start going out, going to cafes, and just talking to people casually. If you just want to enjoy conversation, you can do it on social networking sites, dating apps, or matching apps. In the end, you will need some experience, so if you have never tried it before, it’s a good idea to try everything.

I have summarized my impressions of the matching apps in the article below, so please refer to it if you would like to know more.

Japanese man or for all man who come from abroad and wants to meet women in the U.S. Recommended dating Apps and Places to Meet new people

In summary:

• You shouldn’t think that I’m not popular anyway.
• Focus on what you are doing.
• Be able to talk to anyone without any barriers.
• Only pay attention to cleanliness.
• Conscious of looking women in the eye when you talk to them.
• Proper posture
• Increase the number of women you talk to.

I know many of you think it is impossible to create a good-looking atmosphere by yourself, so I have summarized what I always try to do. All of these tips are things that you can do right now. To create an atmosphere of attractiveness, of course it is important to look clean, but if you love what you do and seem to be enjoying your life, that alone will make you look cool.

All we need is let yourself enjoy yourself.

By doing so, you will surely convey a fun atmosphere to those around you, and they will feel your irresistible aura.

Thank you for reading.

ZenJin