Life is short. How to make the best yourself
Is life long? or is it short? If we were to live to be about 80 years old, we would have about 4,000 weeks to live. Eighty years sounds long, but 4000 weeks sounds short.
As we get older, the speed of time seems to be getting faster and faster. Brain science has shown that we feel this way because we have fewer new experiences than when we were children. As the speed increases, so does my impatience.
You find yourself in your late 30s.
Have I been able to do what I really want to do and be who I want to be my whole life so far? And will it be difficult to find it in the future?
It all depends on how you feel, but when you find yourself devoting your time to your usual daily tasks, the day is over. It often happens, doesn’t it?
I used to lament that I couldn’t make time for the things I wanted to do. I had no time for the things I really wanted to do in life, and it was not fun at all. From that experience, I wanted to somehow make time for the things that were important to me and do the things I wanted to do, and little by little, I was able to change my mind.
If you are currently struggling to find what you want to do in life I would like to share with those who are struggling to find what they want to do in life, my own secret strategy that came out of mind.
This article is written for:
- Those who think that they are not doing what they want to do in their lives and that it is boring.
- Those who want to enjoy their lives.
- Those who don’t know what they want to do or what they like to do, or who don’t have anything special they want to do yet.
This article is for those who do not know yet what they want to do or what they like to do.
I have been living my life without knowing what I want to do. I don’t rub my eyes and keep working until I fall asleep because it’s fun, like when I was a child. I’m always great in the beginning stages of doing something, and used to stay up until midnight trying to figure out how to make it work for a long time, but then I found myself less and less motivated and constantly. Couldn’t keep my motivation all the time and I was wondering what I could do to make my life the most enjoyable it could be.
Finally, recently, things have started to change a little bit. Perhaps more so than before, I feel that I now know what I should do to enjoy my life. And I feel that this will be a big turning point in my life.
Worthwhile work, hobbies, and fun things actually come from within. By understanding and accepting ourselves, we can reduce our fears and anxieties about the future and enjoy life a little more. It is not that you have to work hard all the time, but that there are many things in the world that are very warm.
You can realize that there are many things in the world that are very warm inside.
If someone is currently working and going home every day, they may find that they don’t have time for the things they really want to do. I often say, I’ll get up about an hour earlier in the morning to give myself time to do the things I like to do.
Okay, but wait. There is no problem for those who can get up in the morning because they are the ones who can make as much time as they want to do what they want to do, but in reality, most people can’t do this.
Because they are tired, they want to sleep, and they don’t want to get up. But why don’t they want to get up? The answer is simple. It is because there is nothing they really want to do. There is nothing they want to do even if they bother to get up early in the morning. So, you go to bed. So, the first step is to create what you want to do.
The key to making time is not to get up early in the morning. It is important to find what you want to do first. Most people can’t do what they want to do because they can’t set aside what things to do with those extras. The problem is not the time you don’t have.
In fact, it’s the opposite: they want to do it, but deep down, they think that what they want to do is also a pain in the ass. So it is not something you really want to do, even if you already want to do it. You need to know this clearly.
There was something you really wanted to do when you were a child, wasn’t there? If you remember that, it was something you wanted to do for real, but now you don’t have the passion to go that far that it is so, you maybe need to think about what you really want to do and find it again.
How do I recommend you find what you really wanted to do?
- Think of something you used to enjoy doing. (Comics, reading, leisure activities, sports such as soccer, etc.)
- Focus on the moments in my life that soothed me.
- Try not to seek too much stimulation in my life.
[To think of somethings you used to enjoy when you was young]
I think about the things that I enjoyed doing in the past. This is worth revisiting. It may turn into a lifelong hobby or a job. When I was a little boy, I loved to draw comic books. I also liked classes where I had to create something, and I found that I liked creative activities that allowed me to express myself. On the other hand, there was a long period of time when I was doing monotonous work, and I realized that I disliked it very much.
It is a good idea to do a self-analysis once. I recommend you to try out the famous self-analysis diagnostic websites and objectively understand what kind of personality you are.
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[Be aware of healing moments in your life]
This is a necessary skill to know your current interests. You can also develop your intuition. For example, when you are walking outside and see a view or a person that you think is beautiful or something that makes you feel good, compare it to other scenery that you don’t think of and observe what difference it makes you feel that way. By doing this, you will be able to know what you like about the opposite sex, and you will be able to judge your favorite cafes and other comfortable places.
In fact, people who do not pay any attention to how they feel about things are not able to notice the feelings that are flooding through their minds. Then, they will only get pleasure from things that are stimulating from the outside.
Try to pick up on even the smallest feelings that make you feel interesting or excited.
[Try not to seek out many stimuli]
This is necessary to find healing in your life. An overstimulated life will make you less interested in the little things. For example, it is like the feeling that if you eat a steak every day at a restaurant with marbling, you will no longer be satisfied with the steak you buy at the supermarket.
If you live a life with a lot of stimulation, you become accustomed to it and almost numb to it. If you are playing at nightclubs every week, it would be boring to go to a bar where there is no music and you can’t dance.
If you are playing with various girls and doing strange things in the sex industry, sex with your girlfriends can be boring. Anyway, the more stimulation you add, the more you want more and more stimulation.
And that makes you feel that taking a walk is boring, or reading a book is uninteresting, and so on. In the end, you will feel bored if you do nothing at all. Just being happy to spend time in a natural way, just as you are, is a blessing, and the world is full of small interesting things in various places.
Let’s reduce the stimulants so that we can feel that. If you are wondering why you feel that life is boring unless you go clubbing at night, you must try not to depend on that alone, taking it in only when you really need it.
When you incorporate these three things into your life…
You will always have a brain that will find even the smallest everyday things interesting.
Today, when I was taking a walk, I heard a squirrel.
In the past, I would not have paid any attention to this scene.
It was a squirrel singing at something, and it was so funny that I couldn’t stop looking at it. When I walk along the mountain path, the sun shines through the cloudy sky and I feel as if I am in heaven, which makes me very happy.
Until a while ago, I started hiking and walking for health reasons, but I didn’t feel happy or joyful about it. When I went camping alone, there was a time when I wondered what was so interesting about cooking alone and having no one to talk to, but now I willingly go camping alone. I realized that this is what I like to do, and that I know when I am being interesting.
I now willingly go camping alone because I know what I find interesting and realize that it is what I like to do.
On a nice breezy day, I feel at ease just taking a walk.
I know that my senses are becoming richer and richer.
I can read a book all day long and not get bored.
I am so focused on my writing that I forget to eat when I write.
I can now go camping alone and feel the happiest and most luxurious.
By making time to face yourself and naturally reducing stimulants, you will be able to feel what you really want to do. It’s not about finding what you want to do. It is to be able to feel it in your heart.
That is the secret to finding what you love and what you really want to do in life.
I would be happy if many people who feel that they have not found what they want to do in life and are not enjoying it can open their hearts and minds to self-understanding and enjoy various things in an open and joyful way. I don’t know if this will be helpful for everyone. I have found that it has allowed me to get on with things that I am currently quite motivated to do.
By all means, I hope that you will try it and lead a richer and more fulfilling life.
Thank you for reading.