The benefits of living in own flow with a smile
Yesterday, I left Alaska.
Eight days flew by so fast, and I had a very good time because of the goodness of the local people and the interaction with the people I met there. I can feel that this trip was a turning point for me.
There are roughly two things I learned from this trip.
One is that I am still living in a world where I am concerned about the “stereotypes” of society.
I met some people who travel around the world by motorbike and some who travel around the world by bicycle.
They are not bound by the social norm of “if you don’t do it this way, you are a loser,” but rather they value that it is best to live their lives doing what they want to do. So I have learned from them a lot that they value that it is best to live life the way it is.
I am not sure if I have reached that point yet, but as the trip draws to a close and I begin to think about returning to my daily life, I feel as if I am thinking about success in life in general in terms of social standards, and I am feeling a little lonely and worried that I will lose my motivation.
However, it was a good thing that this trip reaffirmed for me that no matter what I am doing, I must not forget to “live in the moment.” By living in the moment, we can think about who we want to be, not according to society’s standards.
Always trust my senses and a brain that unconsciously made decisions for me to be who I wanted to be and do what I wanted to do at each time without forcing others to do what I did not want to do. That is the only way to strengthen my mentality, which is very comfortable and always keeps me in a normal state of mind.
As I developed a sense that I could do what I wanted to do in Alaska.
I felt myself getting stronger.
I don’t know what people think of me or how they feel about me, but I felt most comfortable going through with what I wanted to do.
For someone who has to fit everything into someone else’s life or can’t make their own decisions.
It is especially good mind control.
Stereotypes are a common saying, and we tend to base our decisions on these stereotypes.
I met people from Germany, Israel, Brazil, Korea, and many other countries on this trip and realized that I am still driven by stereotypes.
I realized that even in the U.S., in big cities like LA, it is not so easy to interact with people from Europe, the Middle East, South America, etc., who are not from the U.S., but it is surprising that there are no such interactions.
Another big thing I noticed was the difference in my own motivation toward people.
I am sure that the external factors such as the adrenaline rush and the freshness of the trip have facilitated my communication with many people, but I have noticed that my interpersonal motivation has decreased when I go back to my home and my usual situation where I live now. I am sure that the trip was a great experience for me.
I know that I was able to actively engage in many interactions during the trip, and that the people in Alaska are very nice, but I think the most important reason for this was that I usually have a hard time communicating with myself and others.
The main reason for this was that my own motivation to communicate was usually low and I was not making a good impression on others, which made conversation with others a hassle for me and ruined many opportunities to interact and have fun.
Compared to when I traveled, I realized that it was a different person, and I was less excited.
In fact, I can enjoy talking to people on the trip, but when I get back home, I can’t.
It seems obvious, but it is easy to forget this when you are actually living a normal life. So it was quite significant to realize this.
As for LA, I am sure that I can enjoy myself with people around me as if I can be like on a trip. I was able to decide that I will always be as cheerful as when I am on vacation. This means that I don’t make a fuss with a strange tension, but just smile, look them in the eye, and talk to them normally.
While this is possible while traveling, just this eye contact and smiling is difficult in the actual real world.
I am sure this alone can make you and those around you smile.
Before this trip to Alaska, my face was probably unfaithful without a smile, as if I was a pain in the ass when conversing with people at any time.
I think many of us probably have a lot of conversations when we are traveling, but not in our daily lives. In fact, it is not because of the “environment” around you, but because of how you feel.
To enjoy life, you need to smile and make decisions on your own.
That is all.
You can decide what is good or bad by yourself, not by someone else’s standard.
The goodness or badness of what you say is not determined by the evaluation or sense of value of others.
You can do what your brain decides is good and not do what you think is bad. It is a very simple and easy style of living.
I can’t speak up here because of what people might think, or you don’t want to say anything because you don’t want to make things awkward, There are so many situations like that in the world.
However, just by always smiling and interacting with people, doing what you think, saying what you think, and acting on what you think, you can change the value of your life considerably.
And when you notice it, the reactions of those around you will also change.
And when you realize it, you may not even care about the reactions of those around you anymore.
I am not suggesting that you should commit a crime such as murder because it is good for you, even if it is bad for society, but I am suggesting that you should act in a more natural way and follow your feelings.
However, when we act more naturally and according to our feelings, we can feel our identity and purpose in life. When you feel a sense of purpose in life, you will be able to smile more, and as a result, you will be able to communicate in a way that gives love to those around you.
If you really want to enjoy your life, you don’t have to worry about what other people think of you or what they think of you.
Do what you want to do, even if it seems silly, and you will be happy.
There will be times when things don’t work out, but that’s just a spice to enjoy life. We all have equal “time” from birth to death (I am talking about a value, not length), and we are given the opportunity to enjoy it for ourselves.
Even if you are not on vacation, if you continue to raise your head, speak a little louder than usual, and smile, you will find that you will be able to enjoy yourself more and more.
I am sure that things that have not been going well or that you have not been able to enjoy will start to turn around at once.
These were the two lessons that made me feel that this trip was a turning point for me.
I am sure many things will change as a result of this trip.
I hope you will just smile at others, keep your flow straight, and enjoy every moment of every day.
Thank you for reading.