I got back from my trip yesterday.

It was a very hard but meaningful road trip of over 2000 miles to White Sands in New Mexico.

Life is limited.

We have to make daily choices for ourselves along our own based and do it.

In a sense, I feel that making the right choice is thought about this is the right choice, neither the right nor the wrong choice whether any result come.

I feel that there is no good or bad in things.

I have a strong mind and I am stubborn, but on the other hand, I am kind of a person who is easy going to decide with own flow.

If I don’t like something I’ve said I liked before, I’ll suddenly change my plans and start doing something else.

So then it can make the people around me are very confused and sometimes they angry.

Once I say something and make a decision, I have to accomplish it that is my philosophy. But it make me feel like I’ve become inflexible.

It’s good to keep things through.

It is also a trustworthy factor to keep doing what I have said once.

That’s why I used to think it was a shame to not do something once I’ve said it.

Recently, I was planning to go to a music event with my friends, but one thing led to another and I decided not to go because I didn’t feel like it.

At this point, I was a bit afraid of losing the trust of the people I was planning to go with, but I changed and respecting my feelings that it’s a bit of a hassle to go.

I realized that sometimes when I value my beliefs and feelings, I need to be flexible enough to be willing to bother others.

I’ve read that people who don’t do what they say they will do will be disliked or avoided.

I felt that this was where my sickness of not wanting people to dislike me lurked.

If I don’t do it what I say, people will hate me.

People around me don’t trust me.

In fact, this is my deep thought of psychology.

But even though I am aware of the fact that sometimes what I say or what I decide to do turns out to be something I don’t want to do, my deep mind always gets in the way.

But what I really wanted to do changes.

It can be triggered by someone’s words.

or a change in environment.

or the situation of corona pandemic.

That’s why I have to study carefully what to believe to make the right choice.

It always ask yourself.

We need to ask ourselves questions and learn to think in new ways and use our brains in flexible ways.

What I’m trying to say here is this.

There are two types of people.

There are two types of people that those who make choices based on their own flow and those who make choices based on the flow of others.

I’m probably the kind of person who can’t live without making my own choices, and I feel like the kind of person who is flexible enough to with my making quick decisions will be the kind of person who will stay with me in the future.

//// People who make choices based on their own flow and people who make choices based on the other person’s flow ////

Neither is better or worse than the other.

The person who respects their own flow is annoying at sometimes, but they are reliable.

The person who respects the other person’s flow is not as interesting and funny, but is kind and calming.

Some people like to work for a company and get paid for it, while others want to start their own business and make money by own.

In relationships, some people want to decide where to go on a date, while others want to have it decided for others.

There is no such thing as whether the former or the latter is good or bad, and each person is different and unique.

So stop measuring the other person from your perspective.

It is important to make choices without fear of losing trust, even when there is a change in intention.

If we think that the other person will think this way if I make this choice, we will not be able to respect our own intentions, and we will not be able to understand the deeper my own thought.

I would like to think of my inflexible way of thinking and living as a “partner”.

I need to realize that the things I once said I absolutely had to do and the dreams I once had are always changing.

This is because different types of people, environments, and people’s feelings change, and there is no such thing as a “must do” standard in this world.

You can’t be afraid of losing the trust of others.

Otherwise, it will living without realizing that my brain is already changing what I want to do and that is really scary.

Be more flexible.

Make more soften my head.

And always use my current feelings as the basis for my choices.

I can become the person I want to be without getting caught up in the past or the future.

So that I want to go to the gym again today to create my strongest mind and body.

ZenJin